5 Popular Mantras that Stop Progress in Betrayal Trauma Recovery
There are many popular mantras I hear people repeat in the betrayal trauma recovery world that just make me cringe. These nuggets of “wisdom” often sound wonderful, but they just aren’t centered around Biblical principles and as a result, allowing them to shape our thinking will actually stop progress if what we seek is true […]
Biblical Repentance: 8 Signs of True Repentance Found in Psalm 51
What is the difference between feeling sorry for your sin and true repentance? It seems this is a point of confusion for many, so lets spend a little time looking to Scripture to help us understand what Biblical repentance really looks like. Biblical Repentance and the First Two Kings of Israel Sin is sin and […]
I Don’t Know What to Do: 5 Steps when You’re Seeking Wisdom from God in Affair Recovery.
If there is one phrase I believe adequately sums up the affair recovery process, it would be, “I don’t know what to do.” Whether you are a betrayed spouse seeking healing or a repentant betrayer trying to overcome, the journey to restoration is full of difficult decisions and forks in the road. Most of us […]
How to Overcome Sex Addiction – 5 First Steps
Anyone who has ever been a slave to sexual sin knows how impossible it feels to ever truly break free from it. But if you want to know how to overcome sex addiction, I’ve got good news for you. As someone who has been there myself and has half a decade of sobriety under my […]
How to Heal a Betrayed Heart – 5 Steps that can Make Me Whole Again
If you’ve ever wondered how to heal a betrayed heart, then you probably already know that betrayal is a vicious monster who seeks to destroy its victims. It demolishes our trust in people, steals every glimmer of hope that keeps us going, and plunges us into the isolation of loneliness. In that darkness we find […]
Processing Trauma to Understand a New Reality
A new reality – that’s the best way I know to describe the state of mind I found myself in after discovering my husband’s infidelity. For countless women, this is the case. It’s as jarring as if we had been caught in some sort of transporter ray by some alternate dimension alien and found ourselves […]
A New Covenant: Our Vow Renewal Story
It’s been too long since I added an update to Our Story, especially since about six months ago we did something pretty significant. A little over four years ago, when our marriage basically fell apart and my love’s infidelity came out into the open, we began finding our way down a road to healing and […]
Why is Confession Important? Because the Truth Will Set You Free
We’ve all heard the phrase, “The truth will set you free.” But until we experienced the shackle-breaking realities of telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth surrounding Steve’s addiction, we didn’t realize how profoundly true that saying is. Why is confession important, you ask? My friend, confession is important because the […]
How to Deal with Infidelity Biblically
Unfortunately, far too many Christian couples find themselves forced to figure out how to deal with infidelity Biblically. We have entered into the covenant of marriage fully intending to cling to our spouse “till death do us part,” but now find we’re having to answer questions we never dreamed would have to be asked. Most […]
What Does the Bible Say About Accountability? How to Hold Yourself Accountable in 5 Steps
Accountability is a big topic. Do a quick google search, and you’ll find a whole lot of people are asking things like: What is personal accountability? What is the difference between responsibility and accountability? What does the Bible say about accountability? Why is personal accountability important? And searching things like: How to hold people accountable, […]